Ejaculatory incompetence is form of sexual dysfunction in males whereby they are unable to ejaculate during normal sexual intercourse or during manual stimulation by the female partner. The term ejaculation actually refers to the release of semen from the penis. When this fails to occur in a man, he is said to be suffering from ejaculatory incompetence. The ugly condition is also referred to retarded ejaculation or sex-delayed ejaculation.

Causes of Ejaculatory Incompetence

In most cases, a male with such a condition finds it very difficult to achieve and maintain an erection which should be sufficient to penetrate the vagina. Several factors are responsible for such condition in some men. Ejaculatory incompetence can be a result of psychological or physical causes.

Psychological  Causes

• Strict religious belief which sees sex as sinful and awful.

• Lack of male to female attraction can also lead to the condition. This is usually the case when the male partner has no likeness and attraction for the opposite gender.

• Various traumatic events can also lead to ejaculatory incompetence. They include being caught in an illegal sexual affair and in an act of masturbation.

• Stress, anxiety and even anger can also lead to ejaculatory incompetence in most men. 

Physical Causes 

• Excessive drug use: This is usually very dangerous. When a man uses various hard drugs such as Prozac, guanethine and mellaril, he’s bound to experience ejaculatory incompetence. These drugs do cause lots of complications in the reproduction system of the individual involved.

• Chronic Diseases: Certain chronic diseases like stroke, kidney failure, nerve damage etc. can lead to ejaculatory incompetence. 

• Broken back and spinal cord: When a man has a case of broken spinal cord or back pains, he may never be able to do well in the game of sex. This can also lead to ejaculatory incompetence.

Other Causes

• Fear of a dirty vagina
• Fear of sexual act resulting into pregnancy
• Inborn trait of homosexuality

Dealing with Ejaculatory Incompetence

Ejaculatory incompetence can be properly handled if it’s discovered on time. In most cases, proper tests, exams and diagnosis are carried out by a reliable medical professional. The test may involve the stimulation of the penis with a stimulatory device such as vibrator or any other instrument. This is usually done to determine the root cause of the problem. If the problem is physical or neurological, normal neurological test may be carried out to ascertain the root cause of the condition. It’s always very important to engage a reliable medical professional to handle the situation.

Treating Ejaculatory Incompetence

When a case of ejaculatory incompetence is properly diagnosed and confirmed, various treatment options can be used in treating the condition. Some options are:

Urological Approach: An urologist can be of help if the case of ejaculatory incompetence is congenial or caused by a physical condition. This method of treatment is often the best if the individual involved has never had an ejaculation from any kind of method such as masturbation, intercourse or wet dreams.

Psychotherapy: This method is usually used in treating ejaculatory incompetence caused by psychological factors. The individual involved has to visit a psychotherapist who will take him through sessions of counseling. If the man is married, he’s encouraged to visit the therapist along with his wife. The therapist takes time to listen to the man in order to pinpoint the actual psychological factors responsible for his situation. 

Though ejaculatory incompetence is curable, it’s always better to prevent it from occurring in the first instance. One should maintain a healthy sexual attitude towards his genitals in order to minimize the possibility of any complication.