Kids can be compared to the porous little sponges; they absorb everything they are made to witness or experience. They look up to the people around and follow their mannerism. Sometimes what they see stands constructive in building their personality as a grown up individual and at times, the negativity spread around hampers their healthy growth.

As your kids attain the school going age, it becomes very vital for you as parents to be very particular about your own behaviour. Kids older than 5 years are more observant and they happen to be in the process of learning quickly. They consider you as their role models and follow whatever behaviour you model before them. And when we talk about being mindful of your behaviour, it counts for your relation with your partner as well.

Here check out the following things that you as parents must do in front of your kids so as to make a good impression on them and teach them the right values:

1. Be affectionate towards each other
Shower affection on one another, it not just builds love in your relation but even makes your kids understand the importance of being affectionate towards others, be it their siblings, relatives, or friends. Also, this gives them an indication as to how they need to build in a relation once they grow up. They will develop a better understanding of relationships and would be in terms with the fact that relations need to be nurtured with affection.

2. Talk humbly and politely
Well, this doesn’t mean you have to be lovey-dovey all the time or use the overtly sugar coated words as ‘Darling’, or ‘Honey’ all the time. You need to respect your partner as an individual and not take him or her for granted; especially before kids as if they see you behaving harshly with your partner, they may do the same. Watch your tone when you are speaking to your partner in front of your kids. Even if it’s a general discussion, let the tone be polite and humble. Don’t sound as bossy or authoritative.

3. Give each other the needed space
Again, it’s very important that both parents act maturely and give each other the needed space. Don’t hover around your partner or be nagging; give them the space they need. When you will respect your partner’s need for some privacy, your kids will also learn the importance of not invading others space when it’s not needed.

4. Say Sorry and Thank you more often
When you hurt your partner by your words or actions, don’t be hesitant in saying sorry. Also, when your partner helps you out with any of your daily tasks or does something special; do acknowledge the effort and say thank-you. They may be very simple words but they do leave a big impact. When you will show your kids how these words need to be used in day to day life, they will become more considerate towards others.

5. Discuss things responsibly
Arguments are common in very relationships as when there are two or more individuals involved, it’s apparent to have some differences in opinion. You too will have your share of discussions or arguments with your partner. But never let them take an ugly turn. Always act maturely and discuss things responsibly. Even if you disagree with something; put up your thoughts clearly but without sounding rude or in mood of a fight. This makes kids understand that there’s nothing that can’t be sorted with open discussions.

6. Indulge in some fun
Nobody loves to live a dull life or be around people who are laden with sadness. Such an atmosphere is not at all appreciable when you have kids in the house as it affects their mental growth. Bring some fun in your life, do some fun activity with your partner and let your kids also be a part of it. It will surely be one great way of strengthening your bond and boosting positivity in kids.

7. Respect each other’s hobbies or interest
Each one of has our own set of hobbies and interests which may be completely different from others. If your partner is fond of writing poems, or loves painting, or enjoys any sport type; always be respectful about it. Don’t create a fuss over anything that concerns their hobby. Let them indulge in the things that give them some pleasure and you take delight in watching them having some enjoyable moments. It teaches your kids also to be considerate about others interests and respect their talents.

8. Seek each other’s advice
We all need some advices at some point of life. And if you can get it from your partner, there can be simply no comparison to it. Whenever you have any doubt or you are uncertain about anything, always seek your partner’s advice. Husbands can discuss some of their office or business matters and seek opinion from their wives. Similarly, if wives face any personal or professional problem, they too must seek solace in their husbands. When you will value each other’s advice, your kids will also look up to you for important advices and suggestions.

Model a behaviour that you would want your child to reciprocate and stick to even in his growing years. Each of life’s learning begins from home only.

If kids are given a nice and constructive environment; there is no doubt over the fact that they will grow into sensible and mature adults.