Love is a wonderful feeling that’s best felt when expressed in the right manner! And when we talk about the love as shared by parents and kids; it stands out to be the most beautiful of all relations and certainly the purest.
You know that your child loves you, but is your child able to understand your love for him? Are you expressing your love for him in a way that he understands?
As we said in the beginning of this article, love is best felt when it is expressed in the right manner. And when it comes to kids, you need to express it in their language of love. This is when your parental love succeeds in strengthening the bond between you and your kids.
Love Languages of Kids
Kids have their own language of love; they understand your love when it’s expressed in their love language. For instance, you bring a nice toy for your child but he doesn’t seem very happy. A little later, you happen to play his favorite game with him and his joy sees no bound. It’s pretty enough to make you realize that kids perceive your love as per their own understanding and way of expressing it. You will have to recognize your child’s language of love and respond accordingly.
Kids have these 5 love languages with which they express their love for you and understand your love as well. To ensure that your kids understand your love, you will have to express it using these love languages.
1. Touch
Some kids express their love via physical touch. They will show love by either giving you a hug, a kiss or cuddling. The touch makes them feel secured from within and gives them the surety of being valued and protected. As toddlers they will love to hold your hands while walking, enjoy sitting on your lap and take great pleasure when rocked by you. As they grow up, they would show the affection by holding hands, giving you a high-five and if you respond back to them in a similar manner, they will truly be glad.
2. Positive words
Kids who often ask you questions such as how do they look, whether a particular dress suits them or not, if their art piece is appealing etc. express love via positive words or affirmation. You will have to make use of some nice words to show affection to such kids. You can even write some wonderful notes for them stating ‘You are mamma’s darling daughter/son’; ‘you always make me happy’ etc. Never be critical or harsh with your words while dealing with such kids.
3. Togetherness
Instead of asking for expensive toys, Barbie dolls or a new play station, some kids only long for togetherness with parents. They just want their parents to be around them, play some games with them, listen or tell stories to them, do some activity together or anything that can get them closer and allow spending some quality time. If your kid is of this kind, you surely are lucky; at least they save you from the expensive deals!
4. Gifts
Well, don’t get alarmed as this point is definitely not going to increase your credit card bill. Gifts here don’t confine to the ‘expensive’ category. Kids, who love expressing their love by sending and receiving gifts, love anything that’s been presented in a little creative manner. Noticing the gift driven kids is very easy. They will often surprise you by presenting you a nicely wrapped rose plucked from the garden, wonderful greetings or anything which reflects their creativity. And to express your love to them, you will also have to be a little creative.
5. Helping hand
Some kids are always on their toes to help their parents. Whether it’s about helping mom in the kitchen or assisting dad in some in-house technical repairs; they always take pride in helping their parents. To express your love to them, you will also have to lend a helping hand. Offer them help in finishing a school project, assist them in some creative task or take them to a place of their interest.
Make your kids realize the depth of your love and let them feel valued and prized. Follow the languages of love and express your affection in the best way possible!