What do you want your son to be like when he grows up? Do you want him to be the generous soul for whom manhood is all about genuinely helping people in need or someone who takes pride in humiliating others and disrespecting a woman’s dignity?
Well, we are sure you would certainly not picture your son growing up into a brat with absolutely no human feelings.
If you want your daughter to be married to a man of principles and dignity, you will first have to raise a son who can be a true gentleman. The qualities you instill him now will stand decisive of his future personality. As parents, especially the mothers, you must ensure that you teach some valuable life lessons to your son which will not just help him be a true man but make others happy too.
So let us here check out what qualities your son must possess in order to be a thorough gentleman. Have a look:
1. Kindness is a noble virtue
The very important of all, you need to teach him about kindness. He must develop feelings like compassion, empathy and love for people around. If he lacks the virtue of kindness, he would never shy away from hurting others or treating people as mere objects. Let your son develop a kind heart, and do teach him that having a kind heart full of love is way better than building up a body.
2. Honesty is needed everywhere
It is indeed the best policy. If your son is taught to be honest right from the young age, he will never find himself doing anything that is against social and moral norms. And you must even teach him that honesty has to be maintained everywhere; be it in the personal life or professional life.
3. Relations are for keeps
It’s often seen that men fail often when it comes to nurturing relationships; especially with life partners. To ensure that your son doesn’t fail on this parameter, make him value relations. Teach him how relations need love, trust and understanding to grow and get stronger. You must tell him that relations are for keeps and one must make all efforts to sustain them for a lifetime.
4. Self-responsibility is a must
Teach your son why it’s good to be self-responsible. He should know that a self-responsible person always walks on the right path, raises concern when he feels something is not right and considers it his right to help people who genuinely need him.
5. Tears are not a sign of weakness
Men don’t cry…it does sound very clichéd. Crying is not a sign of weakness, it’s a way of expressing out the pain that sometimes becomes unbearable, it’s a sign that your heart is kind enough to understand the pain and emote it. Most men tend to hide their feelings and shy away from expressing their emotions thinking that these are all girlish acts. Well, make sure you teach your son that it takes great courage to accept one’s fears, express the true emotions and cry out to ones heart content. Vulnerability in fact lets you explore your real strength.
6. Woman is to be loved, protected & respected
Teach your son, girls are not weak nor are they any way lesser than them; but they need to be protected, loved and respected. Whether she comes into his life as a sister, a friend, a lover or wife; he must give her utmost respect and act as the pillar of trust and strength. And under no situation should he make a girl shed tears because true men cry but they never ever make a girl cry.
7. Courage comes from within
As a true human being, your son must practice humility. A well-built body may appear powerful but the real strength comes from within. You need to make your son strong enough to raise his voice against injustice and humble enough to admit his follies and rectify them.
8. Failures need to be acknowledged too
Don’t let your son run after success, make him a good sport and teach him that failures too are to be acknowledged wholeheartedly. There is nothing to feel ashamed about rather one must learn from the mistakes made and strive for betterment.
9. Violence is never a solution
Teach your son that violence is never a solution for any problem or situation in life. Violence gives rise to violence and never lets peace to dwell around. Make him learn that for tackling any tough situation in life one will have to use a calm mind and an open perspective with sound decision making skills.
10. Love is the mightiest weapon
There is no other tool as powerful as love. It’s indeed the best weapon that can help people overcome all difficulties of life. Teach your son to spread love around and be generous with his thoughts, actions and words.
If you can manage to inculcate these special qualities in your son, then he can surely be a Gentleman, people would love to admire! Share if you agree with these qualities and also let us know what traits you think a Gentleman must possess apart from the ones we have mentioned.