Children are said to be the angels sent down to us by God. Their innocence, curiosity, habits and immaturity is what makes them different from others. When we talk about the above four mentioned qualities then we must say that these qualities often change with time. Time is a big healer. It makes things work out positively on its own whenever required. All we require is a lot of patience, faith and understanding in the long run. We should know that actions speak louder than words. Our actions can guide our children in a more positive direction than our words can. Although words are also an inexhaustible source of magic, capable of both inflicting pain or remedying it. However, kids are highly impressionable and your actions will teach them more than your words.
Likewise, when it comes to teach our children discipline and what is right and wrong for them then the parents should not expect them to learn and implement it there and then. And if they are pressurizing their children to immediately follow what they are saying then this might mislead their children. Children are curious and innocent by nature. They do not even have the slightest of the idea as to how the society around them works. It is the whole sole responsibility of the parents to teach them discipline. Parents should also guide their children so that they realize what is right and what is wrong for them. Some of the parents think that they should not pamper their children and should act strictly.
Such parents fail in the well grooming of their children. Enforcing strict rules on the children would make a bridge of misunderstanding between the two of them. Parents should act cool and should realize that all their children need is a step by step guidance. If they would have been mature enough to act like adults then why do we need to call them as children? When adults commit mistakes then why can not these innocent angels do the same? If parents want their children to obey each and every thing that they say then they should also know that their children will never become a leader because such qualities do not make a leader. But they would certainly become a mere follower because of the improper up bringing of their parents.
Following are a few steps that parents should follow in order to see their children growing up into a mature human being-
Optimistic approach
Parents should be a positive thinker i.e. must be optimistic enough and should have faith in their children. Parents should not wait for an immediate result coming from their children’s side. Instead of waiting they should act positive and should also transfer the vibes of optimism to their children as well. They should not sow seeds of pessimism in them. If the parents themselves will criticize their children then they might loose all the confidence that they have in them. Always remember it is always easier to grasp the negative qualities than the positive ones. Watch your actions as well so that they do not have a negative impact on the children later on.
Actions speaks louder than words
Parents often force their children to obey them and by doing this they are sowing the seeds of disobedience in them. Parents should not say ‘No’ to them and should not stop them from doing what they feel like doing. They should give them a chance to realize that what they are doing is wrong and what the parents tell them to do is for their own good. Parents should make their children realize all this with the help of our actions. This is so because the best way to make your children learn is to show them what consequences their actions can have.
Distraction
Always distract your children when ever they are doing something that can cause harm to them. Parents should not stop their children from doing what they feel like doing because this might arise the feeling of curiosity in them. Instead of stopping them the parents should distract their concentration from one focus to the other. By doing this the children will definitely pay heed to what their parents will say and they will not even realize what is the intention of their parents behind it.