Who doesn't wish for a happily ever after? Of course, everyone does. All couples want their marital life to be a bliss forever. However, at times the little things which you end up doing (whether knowingly or unknowingly), tend to cause incorrigible harm to your otherwise happy marriage.
While you may state that both the partners are equally responsible for making a marriage healthy and strong, there however, are certain things that women can keep a check on so as to ensure there are no foul plays from their end. Today, we have got for you the list of things that most women do, sometimes without even realizing, which ultimately put the marriage at risk. Read on to know the 8 mistakes women make in relationships:
1. Always finding faults: When in a relationship, both the partners must ensure to keep a watch on each others behavior and mannerism so as to provide a constructive criticism. But ladies, be very careful if you are only busy finding faults in your husband. Don't overly criticize him and pinpoint his negative traits. Your nit-picking habits will not just upset him but can slowly drift him away from you.
The Solution: Accept the fact that nobody is perfect, neither you and nor your husband. Look more for his positive qualities, once you start appreciating the good things he does for you, negativity will gradually fade away.
2. Not giving enough space: Women in a relationship tend to be very possessive and this nature of theirs often creates ruckus in the married life. Many keep a track of their husbands day-to-day activity and want to be given the update for each minute. Even at work, the husbands have no peace as their wives might be calling frequently to know if all's good. Though they are just being concerned, but the person at the receiving end feels choked. He feels as if you are invading his space.
The Solution: Your husband is mature enough to look after himself and you don't necessarily need to hover around. Take care of his needs making sure that you are intervening beyond an extent.
3. Being the complaint box: Your husband comes home after a hectic day at work hoping to relax and do some light talking with you. But the moment he walks in, he is offered a different picture altogether. You start bombarding him with complaints about how the kids acted fussy with their homework, how the maid didn't turn up for work; anything and everything under the sun becomes your matter of complaint.
The Solution: You don't have to be a cry baby all the time. Try and avoid telling him about the petty issues you face on an everyday basis. Instead, listen to what your husband has to say after a long tiring day. Indulge in some healthy talking so that you both can unwind.
4. Not being considerate enough of his work: This is one thing that almost every woman goofs up with. Irrespective of the fact whether both the partners are working or not, women tend to be less considerate of their partners work. Husband's important office presentation, or late night meeting, dinner with clients etc. are all fight triggering elements for them. This attitude often turns off the men and needless to say, disturbs marital peace as well.
The Solution: Give due respect to your husband's work. Understand, office work can be a bit taxing. And if you will also start nagging about the same, things will never run in a smooth way.
5. Not being appreciative: Sometimes women feel that unlike them men don't care about compliments. Lack of appreciation also causes resentment in a marriage. If you fail to recognize the good things your partner is doing, either for you or the kids, it's bound to spoil his mood and discourage him from making such an effort for the next time.
The Solution: Take time to appreciate the goodness in your partner. You don't have to do big things to show your appreciation. A small thanks, a hug or a genuine smile will instantly convey your message.
6. Being Too Demanding: Expectations in a relation are good but not when they cross the limit. Expecting your husband to do things which might not be possible for him at present can be a threat to your marriage. When you pressurize him for things which you very well know won't be reasonable enough for him to commit, take away happiness out of your marriage.
The Solution: Try and be less demanding. Always be reasonable in what you need so that it doesn't put unnecessary pressure on your partner.
7. Not giving him the due priority: Post marriage, your life certainly changes a lot. You have a new family to look after and new responsibilities to undertake. But if you always give preference to your old relations as compared to your husband and his family, things are sure to take an ugly turn in the long run.
The Solution: Maintain all relations smartly. Learn to prioritize things and sort out as to which relation needs more of your attention.
8. Not communicating well: Are you among the ones who keep their feelings to themselves? If you don't express yourself before your partner and are in the habit of storing things in your heart, situations can really turn difficult for your married life. The communication gap in relations often causes severe troubles.
The Solution: Be open with your feelings. Your husband can't read your mind, it's you who will have to explain what's bothering you.
If you feel you are committing any of these mistakes, then you are for sure risking your marriage. Every relations has its ups and downs, but if given a try, any problem can be tackled without harming the marital bliss!