A positive and healthy marriage benefits the couples extremely and this fact has been proved a number of times in many of the studies. Couples who are in a healthy relationship enjoy a happier and healthier life. But did you know that the goodness of your marriage can be beneficial for your parenting too?
We are sure many couples might not have been aware of this fact but it does attribute to parenting. As per a recent study, the quality of your marriage can affect your kids in a great way. There are certain things which they learn from your relation and if your marriage is on the wrong track, you can imagine how negatively things can affect their young minds.
So, let us know what your little ones learn from your marriage.
1. The real meaning of Marriage: For most of the married couples, the relation loses its charm over a period of time. However, if you make genuine efforts to keep up the relation in its finest forms, the kids apparently learn how meaningful a relation marriage is. When parents cherish their bond of togetherness, kids too understand that marriage is for keeps.
2. Ways to be a Happy Family: You sure have your share of struggles in maintaining your work and life balance. But if you still manage to dig out some quality time for your kids and yourselves; the kids would never assume parenting as a miserable job. In fact, this will give them a clear cut idea as to how one can build a 'happy family'.
3. The right attitude of Handling Differences: Every couple argues and has some sort of differences. But the way you deal with those adverse situations is what helps your kids to understand the right way of dealing with differences. So whenever facing a conflict or argument, make sure that you deal with it in a calm way rather than yelling, shouting, slamming doors or opting for the silent treatment. It even helps you in sticking to a good way of parenting.
4. How to Negotiate and Compromise: As we talked of the conflicts and arguments, the way you negotiate and compromise with your partner, gives out an idea to kids on how one must value others opinion and work together in finding the best solution.
5. The meaning of Commitment: Marriage is what defines commitment in true sense. If you make an effort to stand by each other through thick and thin, the kids will learn that relations aren't meant only for the happy times but they hold more strength in time of distress.
6. Art of displaying Respect: Your kids will always monitor your behavior with each other. They observe the manner in which you talk to each other, the way you handle fights etc. if you fail in showing mutual respect, kids apparently will be affected in a negative manner. But if you share a great rapport with your partner and shower him or her with the respect so deserved, your kids will value the art of showing respect and thus your parenting will yield the desired results.
7. Appreciating: Compliments and appreciations are loved by everyone as no one wishes to be taken for granted. But sadly, most of the married couples rule out the importance of appreciating each other on a regular basis. However, your little acts of appreciation toward your partner will help your kids learn the usefulness of appreciating.
8. Love and Forgiveness: It's your marriage that teaches your kids the true meaning of love. They learn how important it is to love unconditionally and forgiving the mistakes one makes so as to strengthen and protect the relationship from going kaput.
9. Expressing affection: Love and affection unless expressed do no good to any relation. When you hold hands or cuddle in front of your kids, they know how important it is to express one's feeling in a relation to keep it healthy.
10. Relationships are a two-way street: Every relationship happens to be a two-way street in which both the people involved have to make equal and honest efforts to keep up the relation hale and hearty for long. Your kids must learn from you that in a relation there's no 'I' or 'Me'; it's always 'We' and 'Us'.
You can tell them about all the good qualities that mark your parenting style but unless you practice all of them, your kids will never implement them in their lives. So make your action louder than your words.