As said by sages, sometimes a momentary happiness is more than all the life-time happiness combined! And in that tiny moment your universe shifts completely in the biggest way. You are no longer at the centre of it, and you have never been happier!

For my wife, and me that moment was when we saw that double line appear on our pregnancy test. In a few months some very tiny feet were going to make the largest prints in our hearts! We were ecstatic. We can not believe that we have miraculously created a life and are about to bring it into the world. But we know that becoming a parent is not easy and pregnancy is a challenging time for both parents. Obviously we were scared and excited at the same time. It was that unique feeling which can not be described in words.

I sat down with my wife and we started to talk. I wanted to be there and help her out as much as i could. But she simply nodded and rolled her eyes. It is usually expected in our society that husband will take care of outside world while the woman labors on through the process of pregnancy. I find this unkind to both.

Even though I cannot bear a child, a child is born to me as much as it is to my wife. This journey from becoming a parent is an equal transitioning phase for both. The hardest times in life are when we are transitioning from one version of ourselves to the other. If you have each other’s support and love, then this journey becomes even more memorable.

Things are changing, albeit slowly. But our society, especially men have become more progressive and sensitive towards women. I personally have felt the shift in my thinking. After reading articles and seeing videos that speak of equality, I started noticing the little things that I used to assume a certain way, because it has always happened so. When my parents had me, my mom took a break from work while my dad worked extra hours in the office to strengthen the financial front, now that a new member was joining the family.

Now, we have come a long way from expecting women to stop working once they get pregnant to introducing maternity provisions for pregnant woman. Certain corporate companies are pushing to give paternity leaves for men too! Wouldn’t that be amazing?! To have a future where there is a balanced life and understanding of responsibilities that are not stirred in a specific direction based on what the society says about gender roles.

Pregnancy tests have also gone from the confines of an OBGYN’s clinic to the personal space of our homes. I felt so blessed to be able to share this personal moment with my wife at our home, where together we have made so many beautiful memories and will make so many more!

As we saw that line appear, my wife screamed, “I am pregnant!! I cannot believe this!”

I did not know what to say so I just held her tight and we basked in this beautiful moment. Soon I was up on my laptop googling all things new parents need to do and was reading a lot of stuff on social media as well. And I came upon this (video below)…this eye-opening change of a simple word. I realized in that moment that in a marriage, it is always ‘WE’.

Watch this heart touching video. I know you guys will also love it…

Love may have brought us together but our commitment towards ‘us’ as individuals and companions strengthens a marriage, a family.

She needs to know you love her, pregnant or not! However, an extra showering of romance during this period can help smooth over her rough days or emotional moments.

Listen to her,

Help her out,

Be at her backbone call,

Take her on a date,

Be eager for whatever she says,

Show a little romance,

Find ways to help your wife relax,

Having these thoughts in mind, I immediately went to a bakery and ordered a cake. It simply read,

“Congratulations! We are pregnant.”